2 Things To Keep in Mind This New Year
If you’re like a lot of people you’re probably still settling into the new year and trying to wrap your head around it. Maybe you have clarirty and direction in some aspects of your life but not in others or possibly you have it all together and figured out. Where ever you are along this …
How To Recover From Heartbreak
If you’ve ever lost someone you loved or a relationship you cherished then you know the feeling. One minute the world is alright because you have them, the next minute they’re gone. You’re in shock and disbelief but it’s terrifyingly true. Maybe you saw it coming or perhaps you were totally blind-sighted. You may even …
Why Toxic Relationships Are So Irresistible
She was captivated the moment she set eyes on him. It was much more than his good looks, the suave manner he walked or the way his eyes held hers. There was something in his demeanor that spoke of authority, power and protection. This met a deep seated need within her that she hadn’t known …
How to Make Someone Feel Heard and Accepted
In all relationships, be it with a spouse, child, friend or sibling, one of the most potent glues that bind people together is love followed closely by acceptance. You thrive when you know in your heart, for sure, that someone loves and accepts you. You’re free to be you – in all your goofiness and …
What Your Emotions Say About You
Most of us are on a perpetual journey towards self discovery. Some are a bit further along than others. We learn interesting, sometimes surprising things about ourselves every day; like the things we like and don’t like, the things that stress us out and relax us and more importantly the type of people who encourage, …
The Tragedy of Rape – the consequences of intimate trauma
The consultation was routine, a follow up for a minor urinary tract infection that had shown up out of the blues. She had taken the prescribed antibiotics and was fine she maintained. Her mum wasn’t so sure and had insisted she see me. So, Patricia, not her real name, sat facing me, 2 meters away …
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Tell-Tale Signs That What You Feel Is Real Love
“Any day spent with you is my favourite day” – Winnie the Pooh It’s hard to be single and searching in today’s world. For those looking for a true, strong connection with another human being in a committed relationship the field is rife with mines, detours and dead ends at every turn. There are …
Spotlight on Body Image – How to cope when you hate the way you look
Do you dislike your physical appearance? Wish you were prettier, taller, skinnier or generally different than the way you are right now? Yes? Then you’re not alone. Millions of people all over the world detest the way they look or at least the shape or size of a part of their body. Many suffer alone …
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7 Ways To Quiet Your Mind (so you can get well deserved sleep)
It’s been a long day and now you’re home, having managed to survive the day’s stress somehow. You navigate the evening chores then clamber into bed exhausted, craving deep, peaceful sleep. As your head hits the pillow you sigh… finally, much needed rest. Only 2 hours later you’re still awake, physically exhausted but mentally alert …
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When Emotions Give Rise To Physical Symptoms – Understanding Somatic Symptom Disorder
Khadijah drifted out of sleep and was wide awake in minutes to the sound of the throbbing in her own head. ‘Not again’ she sighed, frowned and raised a hand to her forehead. She’d had pressure in her head, palpitations, and a sensation of crawling in her head on and off for weeks now. Worse …
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What We Can Learn From Adversity
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not …
The Psychological Benefits of Exercise
Have you ever had one of those days where it felt like nothing was going your way? Maybe the unexpected happened and things didn’t go as planned or just started to fall apart. How did you react? Did you withdraw from others to a quiet place to regroup and reassess your situation? Perhaps you scheduled …
How to Know When Grief Has Become Abnormal
The worst has happened. The silver cord is finally broken. The ones still living are left to pick up what remains of their lives – in heartrending grief. Grief – Normal, abnormal or plain depression? When it has to do with the loss of a loved one the distinguishing lines become rather blurry. The ringing of …
Why You’re Afraid of Commitment – what to do when love makes you cringe
Love is a powerful emotion, one of the strongest forces known to man. It’s a feeling of deep affection that frees us from self-centeredness to the point where we put someone else’s needs above our own and are filled with joy and a sense of satisfaction in being with them and watching them reach their …
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How to Live When You’re Afraid of Dying
‘ Death is not the opposite of life but a part of it’- Haruki Murakami The COVID 19 pandemic, world wide increase in the spate of violence and the recent ENDSARS shooting in Nigeria has brought to the front burner what many of us try not to think about – death. It’s hard to turn …
Why Infidelity Occurs And How To Protect Your Marriage
“My spouse could never be unfaithful—she has my utmost trust,” “He has such strong moral convictions that an affair is unthinkable.” “I had always regarded those who had affairs as selfish, misguided fools with no discipline whatsoever. I could not have imagined having an affair myself.” The subject of infidelity is a sore one most …
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Can You Have a Panic Attack While Sleeping?
It was a rainy, miserable night when Mrs Igbinedion was rushed to the emergency room gasping for breath, clutching her chest and in mortal fear for her life. She had awoken from sleep suddenly with a heaviness in her chest and difficulty breathing. Now she was sure she was about to die! She had been …
Secrets of Irresistible People – with love to all single people searching
It would’ve been amusing if it wasn’t something so serious, what some ladies do to get the attention of a man they find attractive and vice versa: the low cut blouses, skin tight clothing and non-existent hem lines. Some even resort to diabolical means. ( I shudder) And for the men; the carefully practiced lines, …
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How Talk Therapy Helps Ease Chronic Pain
When you’ve been in pain for years, had expensive imaging like x-rays and MRIs done and seen several doctors, you probably think you’ve heard it all with regards to your pain. But have you heard of cognitive behaviour therapy called CBT for short? It’s one of the most widely researched psychotherapeutic modalities and is proven …
You Can Learn to Love Yourself – tips to having self – compassion
‘Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all ’ – says the lyrics of the 1980’s hit single by the talented singer Whitney Houston. For those old enough to know. Timeless words and so true. Hundreds of studies have shown the benefits of being a supportive friend to yourself- especially in difficult times, …
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